Manners : Differs with Different Intimacy and Different Social Status Difference - Writing Essay 4

                Manner is a very important part of human life. Manner can be different in diverse cultural settings. In my culture, manner, which is how we treat and interact with someone, signifies two things; the level of intimacy and the social status difference.

                When we are not close to someone, we will behave like an acquintance. We would try to look distant and very polite towards him or her. However, it will be different if we are very close to him or her since we can be more open and mannerless. For example,when I first met one of my friend whom place of origin’s is the same as mine, East Java, I was a bit distant and still speaking Indonesian to him or her since we still do not know each other well. When we started to know that we are from the same region, we started to speak our native tongue, Javanese, even though we were using a polite Javanese. As the time goes, my friend and I became very close and now we are speaking a rude Javanese, with cursing and swearing, which in my culture define that we are very close to someone or a very rude person. Thus we can conclude that the level of manner, which is how we interact with someone, signifies the level of intimacy between people.

                In my culture, someone with lower social status will usually display good manner to someone from higher social status. They will try to look polite and nice since if they do not, they will got a social punishment from the society because they have break normal manners. However, when they are interacting with someone whose social status’ is equal, their behaviour will be different since they can be more open to him or her. They will act different again when they are with someone from lower social status. Some of them will act high and almighty; furthermore, they will like to give orders and will likely to use force to fulfill what they need. However, not all of people whose social status’ is higher behave like a dictator since some of them will act like a protector.  Thus, a person social status, which is higher or lower from another person, could be defined by his or her manner towards the other.

                We now know that, in my culture, the level of intimacy and social status difference could be defined by our manner towards the other. We will act differently when we are with our best friend and when we are with a stranger. We will also act differently when we are interacting with our boss and when we are interacting with our co-workers. However, there is a case where our best friends is our boss or our driver. In the end, we must react with the proper manner in different situation.

Friends That Come and Go - Writing Essay 3

Friendship is a strange form of human bonding. It could be as strong as as steel; nevertheless, it could be as a fragile as crackers. It could be as caring and loving as bond between parents and their child; however, it could be as dominating and protecting as bond between the head and his or her employees at organization or work. However, there is no boundaries in friendship since external characters such as age, social status, occupation, or culture are not looked up when finding friends. As long as there is acceptance whether it understandable or not, friendship will always be strong and last. However, there is one kind of friends which is very dangerous: the kind of friend who became a friend because of others advantages and then leave his or her friends because of their disadvantages.

There are people that become friends with others because of their advantages. While this kind of friendship could bring benefit for both sides, since one side will gain social benefit and the other side will obtain the other benefit, it has tendencies to become one sided friendship. When the one who have the advantages have lost his or her advantages, his or her “friend” would try to avoid him or her; furthermore, his or her “friends” would become the opposite of him or her.

This kind of friend, which will leave us when we are in trouble or are having some disadvantages, will cause a trouble in our life. Not only we will have to face our problem alone since our place to turn for help is gone, but also will make us harder to trust someone and easier to distrust someone. While at some point this will make us more cautious to our surroundings, it will make us harder and harder to trust someone. When we have experienced it too much, we will believe that there is no one worth to be trusted; furthermore, it will change us to be come introverted person. This is dangerous because it will make us do not want to interact with others when we are living in the social worlds; furthermore, we will feel deserted and abandoned by the world.

What we needed now is a true friends. A friends who accepted whatever advantages and disadvantages we have. A friends who will not leave us whenever we have problems. A friends who will there with us wherever we are. A friends at which we share pain and joy and solve problems. Everytime we need them, they will come to help us. This kind of friendship is what we need to overcome whatever problem we had in the future.